Monday, June 19, 2023

7 Minutes for the next 10 Years - Matthew McConaughey Motivational Speech



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I'm going to talk to you about some things I've learned in my journey. Most from experience, some of them I heard in passing. Many of them, I'm still practising. But all of them, I do believe, are true. Now they may be true to me but don't think that makes them mine because you cannot own truth. So please think of these as signposts, approaches, paradigms, that give some science satisfaction. They're yours to steal. They're yours to share. Liken and do your own lives. To personally apply in your own lives, in your own way. Should you choose to?

'Unbelievable' is the stupidest word in the dictionary. It should never come out of our mouths.

Think about it. To say: "Oh wow, what an unbelievable play." "It was an unbelievable book," "unbelievable film," "an unbelievable act of courage." Really it may be spectacular. It may be phenomenal. Most excellent or outstanding. But unbelievable? Give others and yourself more credit. It just happened. You witnessed it. You just did it. Believe it. Give your obstacles credit. You know, once you do find your frequency on something. Go forward if you're a non-tyrant. Don't ask permission, and that's not giving a damn part.

I've found that the world will actually acquiesce and go, "yeah I'll give you a green light on it."

If you actually go forward and mean it, and you're going to do it by hook or by crook and not ask permission. Life is not easy. It is not. Don't try to make it that way. Life's not fair. It never was, it isn't now, and it won't ever be. Do not fall into the trap, the entitlement trap of feeling like you're a victim - you are not. Get over it. Get on with it. And yes, most things are more rewarding when you break a sweat to get them. Sit here in that discomfort. Long enough to go, "okay." Until you come out the other side to go, "all right, I'm good with me again." I don't want to leave a place I travel to until I get to the point of going, "ah, I could live here." This could be my existence.

As soon as I get to that point, then I'm like, "okay, you go." It's the same thing in the personal journeys. Stick with it until you get through the discomfort, uncomfortable times. Until you go, "you know what? I can spend time with myself. I could do this. I could do this forever." Well then, it's okay to go to re-engage, pick up your phone, go see your friends, go have a drink. What have you got? Look for those things that are other relationships in life. But, hopefully, not until there's great value in not doing that. Until you go, "I'm good with me and me for right now." So to any of us, whatever those things are, whatever it is. We look up to whatever it is we look forward to, "I say all right. All right, all right."

See, happiness is an emotional response to an outcome. If I win, I will be happy. If I don't, I won't. It's an if-then, cause-and-effect, quid pro quo standard that we cannot sustain because we immediately raise it every time we attain it. See, happiness demands a certain outcome. It is result reliant. And I say if happiness is what you're after, then you're going to be let down frequently, and you're going to be unhappy much of your time. Joy though. Joy's a different thing. It's something else, Joy is not a choice. It's not a response to some result. It's a constant.

Joy is the feeling that we have from doing what we are fashioned to do.

It is just as important where we are not as it is where we are. Look, the first step that leads to our identity in life is usually not, "I know who I am. I know who I am." That's not the first step. The first step is usually, "I know who I am not." The process of elimination, defining ourselves by what we are not, is the first step that leads us to really knowing who we are.

South of New Orleans, a few years ago, I went to a Voodoo shop, and they had this wooden partition against the wall of these columns. And in these columns, where all these vials of these magic potions, and the headings above each potion defining what they would give. You were things like fertility, health, family, legal help, energy, forgiveness, and money. Guess which column was empty? Money. Just admit it. Money is king today. It's what makes the world go round. It is a success. The more we have, the more successful we are, right?

Now, I would argue that our cultural values have even been financialized. Humility is not in vogue anymore. It's too passive. To get rich quickly on the internet. Richest 15 minutes of fame world that we live in, and we see it every day. But we all want to succeed, right? So the question that we've got to ask ourselves is what success is to us. What is success to you? Is it more money? That's fine! I got nothing against money, I don't.

Maybe it's a healthy family. Maybe it's a happy marriage. Maybe it's to help others to be famous, be spiritually sound, and leave the world a little bit better place than you found it. Continue to ask yourself that question now. Your answer may change over time, and that's fine. But do yourself this faith. Whatever your answer is, don't choose anything that will jeopardize your soul. Prioritize who you are and who you want to be, and don't spend time with anything that antagonizes your character. Don't drink the Kool-Aid, man, it tastes sweet, but you will get cavities tomorrow, all right. Life is not a popularity contest, be brave, take the hill, but first answer that question: what's my hill?

There's a responsibility to freedom, and that there is freedom in responsibility, you know. And that earns your way there. We remember the stuff we earned the stuff. We experience more than what the teacher tells us or what someone gives us for free. We just do. We broke a proverbial sweat on it, other's mental or physical or whatever we built it. We understand we felt, how we got it, how we achieved it, and how we got what we wanted. Those stick with us, Whether we forget them, intellectually, they were written in our lineage, and they build resilience, and they build healthy, true optimism.

Going forward to know that, "oh no. I've worked for something before and achieved it." Delayed gratification. "Oh there are choices I can make today for myself, that will pay me back later in life." So there are choices we make. If you're going to say right now, I'm going to lie, cheat and steal to get what I want and I got it. I got an immediate green light for me. That's a battery-powered green light. That's not a solar-powered, green light. Why?

Because now everywhere I go, I gotta look over my shoulder to see if someone's there that I lied, cheated stole from, and when I'm doing that, I'm stealing who's time? My time. I'm not free, I don't have the freedom. I didn't create freedom in my future because I chose to make an irresponsible act in that I left crumbs. I've now got reasons to look over my shoulder and the more things we do to create in our future that we got to look over our shoulder the more of the most precious thing we have in our lives. Time, that we're stealing from ourselves.

So it's not puritanical. It's just like it's actually self-service, it's a very selfish choice. And, I'm a fan of the word 'selfish'. I've helped redefine it, but I believe that there are selfish choices we can make. That is the most selfless. That there are selfless choices that we can make that are the most selfish choices. Those two are not a contradiction, and we see them that way.

Responsibility is an appreciation of the past. It's building a lineage, it's investing in ourselves. It's investing in something we started to build yesterday, that we want to take into tomorrow. There's a response that gives us freedom. Be brave, have courage, and when you do, you get stronger. You get more aware, you get more respectful of yourself, and that which you fear.

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